{"product_id":"how-to-be-a-person-in-the-world-ask-pollys-guide-through-the-paradoxes-of-modern-life","title":"How to Be a Person in the World: Ask Polly's Guide Through the Paradoxes of Modern Life","description":"\u003cp\u003eHeather Havrilesky\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e*A  New York Times Love and Relationships bestseller*\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eFor readers of Cheryl Strayed and Anne Lamott, a  collection of brand new, impassioned, and inspiring letters  by the author of the beloved advice column Ask Polly, featured weekly on New York Magazine's  The Cut\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eShould you quit your day job to follow your dreams? How do you rein in an overbearing mother? Will you ever stop dating wishy-washy, noncommittal guys? Should you put off having a baby for your career? \u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eHeather Havrilesky, the author of the weekly advice column Ask Polly, featured in New York magazine’s The Cut, is here to guide you through the “what if’s” and “I don’t knows” of modern life with the signature wisdom and tough love her readers have come to expect. \u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eHow to Be a Person in the World is a collection of never-before-published material along with a few fan favorites. 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